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Roses are dying
Violets are blue
Feelings really suck
And boys do too

You forgot to look where you were going…daydreaming when you fell head over heels down the rabbit hole. Blinded by soft kisses and the way the scent of his cologne clung to every stich on his clothes. Not an obnoxious aroma, but enough for you to notice his presence in a room without even having to turn around. On the fall down the rabbit hole, both hand in hand, you reach out to grab your future only it is slightly out of your arms reach. You reach for your happiness but you’re a second too late, you already passed it by. You both are tumbling past the madness that is both your life and your romance, further into the darkness. Until…

Thump.

You suddenly are brought to an abrupt stop by the concrete blow of the ground. You are disoriented and confused. You are alone. But how?

Two seconds ago you were in a loving and happy relationship. Now you are left with the reminisce of what used to be.

Your girlfriends are like, forget him and pass you a bottle of wine that is ever so inviting. It says to you, “drink me.” Only a few glasses in and you feel pathetic and small. Your feelings got the best of you. They are too overpowering because you are much too sad about this breakup.

Single is like a curse word in your eyes.  The bottle is now empty; on to phase two of mending your broken heart.  Your friends tempt you with the pint of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream with a spoon up to your mouth like an airplane mocking you saying, “eat me!” In your head you’re like why not?

The healing process is almost complete, meaning the ice cream is nearly gone. You feel huge and bloated but isn’t that the whole point of this vicious cycle any ways. You can’t feel worse than you already are feeling, right?

But wait, we’re not done; you haven’t had your hearty cry. The second that last spoonful of creamy, fattening, goodness hits your lips, it’s game over. Like clockwork, tears begin fill your eyes and like the natural beauty herself, the tears come pouring out like Niagara Falls. As you sit there drowning in your sorrows, wasting tears over this heart breaker you are forgetting that every time one door closes another one opens.

How does one go from only knowing how to be happy in a relationship to being happily single?

It’s a journey that you have to walk alone. There is no doubt that you will run into a few characters along the way. Their role they have in your life journey is valuable in shaping who you are and who you are becoming.  Stop putting your love life on a schedule. It’s not a race; so stop chasing after it like it is. Nothing about relationships is ever fair. Sometimes the way things are handled are just plain cruel. Some even see it as a game. The perfect romance is simply just a dream-like fantasy because in reality every relationship has its flaws.

But it’s the flaws that make you love someone for who they are. It shouldn’t make a difference if these flaws are your own. Happiness should not be defined by your Facebook relationship status.

Ladies go out and paint the town red! Prince Charming can wait, your happiness cannot.