After watching the summer romantic comedy release called Friends with Benefits, in July starring Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis, it brought about an array of questions in regards to the topic. Can a guy and a girl have a live in relationship and not get fully attracted to each other? My answer- Not possible.
Despite what kind of intentions either person has when entering into a relationship like this, the more time you spend with another person, the more intimate you are going to get. Most people assume that they know their own boundaries enough not to cross them, and setting those lines way ahead of time will avoid all of the headaches. Fact is, when it comes to matters of the heart, rationality is often let go and decisions are made on the fact that you THINK you can control your emotions. Usually this leads to drama and stress and an emotionally unhealthy and unstable couple of people. One thing I have noticed is that it is much easier for men to separate their emotions from their physical behaviors.
It’s a sort of unconscious decision they make- if they know all they want is intimacy, then they numb the emotions from feeling anything but a physical connection. Women on the other hand have a much harder time making that separation- which is when the friends with benefits scenario usually breaks at the seam. It comes to show that women are more interested in the “friends” part of the relationship, whilst men are more interested in the “benefits”. Most women rely on that little string of hope that maybe, just maybe, keeping a relationship like this going for a while will hopefully blossom into a real one that will end up as a normal dating scenario- but it’s a proven fact that only 10% of relationships that start off as just physical end up as a full blown out relationship.
It all comes down to the truth of the matter- her heart is always going to be open and so is his fly. If you think you can control your emotions to not get attached, then more power to you! If not, best thing is to stay away from situations like that which can turn into a bad situation later on.